How To Deal With Rejection
Rejection is never easy. And trust me, I’ve had my fair share. I recently applied for a prestigious program that I am extremely interested in, so I thought this would be fitting for me and others who are going through the same issues with college letters coming back at this time. Whether it’s being turned down by someone you like or not getting the job, here’s a little cheat sheet that tells you how to deal with it and move on.
Take a break to process.
Many people take to social media to rant about their nonfulfillment or take out their disappointment on people they are close to. This is one of the worst ways to handle rejection. Instead, take a step back from your phone and people who may provoke unhappy thoughts to process the situation. Otherwise, you end up making impulsive decisions that you won’t be proud of in retrospect.
Communicate to people close to you how you feel and how you want them to handle the situation.
Do not try to play it cool. This gives people room to openly talk and make light of your recent rejection which could potentially upset you even more. Tell your friends and family “I really am disappointed that I didn’t make __________, and I hope you guys can respect that by __________.” And decide how you want people to go about the situation.
Write down your feelings in a journal or talk about it with someone.
Writing down your feelings in a journal and talking to someone allows you to blow off steam in a way that won’t jeopardize your standings with anyone. Write in a journal so the message stays there and only there, and speak to someone you trust so you know it won’t be blabbed about elsewhere.
Understand that you are great and who/what declined you is great.
Not being accepted by someone/something does not make you inferior or substandard, it just means that you are not what he/she/it is looking for, which is absolutely okay. We all have our personal preferences. And why would we sacrifice that to make others feel important? You are already important and you don’t need any validation in the form of a “yes.”
Consider what went wrong.
Didn’t get the job? Maybe your delivery in the interview could’ve been better. Didn’t get into your college of choice? Maybe you didn’t get involved in as many school and/or extracurricular activities as you could’ve. Make this unfortunate moment a wake-up call to improve on things that will eventually better yourself and your relationships with others.
Do something you love.
Whether it’s hanging out with your mom, taking up a hobby, playing a sport, or just watching a movie, this will help you to take your mind off any negativity. We all know how one bad thought could spiral into millions of others, making you feel even worse.
Continue to put yourself out there.
Don’t stop trying at things even if you think you’ll be bad at them. What’s the worst thing that could happen, you get rejected? Well, it’s a good thing you know how to handle it now!